A few weeks ago a good friend made a small confession to me. She told me she had gone into her favourite department store and purchased a pair of very hideous trousers. My instant reaction was WHY? Sinking her head into her coffee, she admitted she hadn’t bought the trousers because they looked good. In that moment I looked down and noticed she was sitting in the very same shitty trousers, (literally) Why on earth would you buy something that you felt bad in. She reluctantly replied, for fashion.
Unknown to my friend, she had become a victim of what myself and others like to call, the trend spin. This whirlwind phenomenon gets us hard, especially when we are at our weakest. A quick example of this… it’s Thursday, the weekend is fast approaching and we have nothing to wear. What do many of us do? Perhaps jump online, search to see what our favourite celebs are buying, see whats trending on Instagram, or even what has been worn at LFW this year. The next steps are inevitable, we buy right into it. Other people’s idealisation of style.
Now i’m not saying there is anything wrong with this. I am not here to tell you what to wear, just to remind you not to lose your identity in the process of discovering your wardrobe. This has also been a challenge for me in my mid-twenties as I know you go through several transformations as you get older. You struggle with all those uncertainties, like if your 20 crop tops and ridiculously high stilettos are actually just a phase or a part of who you are, I get it. Personal style can be tricky but instead of falling at the first hurdle, why not fall into your own style spin?
Now you might be thinking this is all great and well, but how the hell do I do this? How do I keep my personal style? And i’m going to be brutally honest with you – you might of guessed, but it’s kinda personal. It’s simply up to you. I stopped conforming to these trends when I started asking myself these 3 questions. My answers always resulted in my decision to wear something I like, rather than.. say, what the Kardashians are wearing.
Does this look utterly fabulous on me? Does this make me feel good on the inside? Am I buying this because it’s in trend?
Whilst I pass no judgment to those in the trend spin for as long as you are happy and confident, I do however hope to encourage those to embrace more of their own originality and to not be ashamed of what we think is cool. I’ve lost count of the amount of times i’ve worn something because I like it, not because it’s in season. You name it, I’ve been there, in and out of wardrobe malfunctions mostly made up of stupidly short skirts and oversized shit shirts. At the end of the day, if my closest friends can look at me and say “oh my god tiff, you’re not wearing that are you” and I’ve got enough confidence to swallow my pride and say “yes, I’m wearing this”, then that’s good enough for me.